Relationship Issues, Affairs
My partner has had an affair, how and what am I suppose to think?
One in three first marriages and one in two second marriages ends in divorce, we do not have accurate figures to say how many relationships end or endure an affair. It is true to say that everyone knows at least one couple who have experienced an affair happening in their relationship.
So your partner has cheated on you, what do you do? Most people when asked would say they would leave, but the reality is different. The first reaction is usually shock, feeling sick, some people erupt into anger yet others remain calm, all is normal. It is one of the most confusing situations we can find ourselves in, bitter sweet, loving our partner yet hating them at the same time.
The most important thing is to give yourself time, do not make hasty decisions which could affect the wrest of your life. Talk, work out why it happened, the couple must both be prepared to take some of the responsibility. An individual who has an affair is missing something they need in their relationship. It can be affection, attention, responsibility, equality, it may be an escape from real life and stress, responsibility, money worries, etc. where the home and partner are a reminder of their failings.
If you ask questions of your partner be sure you can cope with the answers, some of which can haunt you for months or even years. Your imagination will work overtime and you may feel you are going mad, you may feel vengful, hatred towards your partner and the other person. You may feel you want the whole world to know you have been wronged or you may not want it to get out, you may feel you could not deal with anyone knowing, all is normal.
You may feel you do not know your partner, or even worse, you do not know yourself because of how it has made you feel or what it has made you do. It may be hard to understand but an affair can make or break a relationship. It is possible to make a relationship stronger, for the first time a couple may learn to talk to each other about their true feelings, to iron out problems when they first start to appear and so on.
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